Wanting to get back together with your ex girlfriend or your wife is a simple issue of mind over matter. You will find that your attitude has more to do with your success in your relationship with the woman of your dreams than anything else. While a woman might hear your words fine, she will judge you by your actions. You goal should be to show her with your actions that you are strong, fun to be around and the best man for her. You are confident and you need to instill a feeling of security in her when she is with you.
Being rejected by the woman you love can be stressful and demoralizing. If you have fallen apart in front of your girlfriend or wife because you are upset or emotionally wounded by her departure then you are normal. This doesn't mean that these emotional display aren't helping you. These emotions are probably linked to the true reason why she decided to leave you though. She might not even realize it but there is a very good chance that it is a lack of respect on her part that caused her to change how she thinks of you or views you as a man. Surely, she gave you many excuses for why she was leaving but these weren't the true reason. The root cause for why a woman usually leaves a relationship is usually how she feels about that man. It should be your goal to change how she thinks and feels about you. Avoid the temptation to cry, beg, plead or even ask about the possibility of getting back together at all cost. As a matter of fact, avoid all contact with your ex until you have your life back together and your attitude has changed.
In life, attitude is everything. This is especially true with women. It is often said that in order to make a woman fall in love with a man he must have an attitude that shows that he is willing to walk away. For instance, if your girlfriend or wife is accustomed to yelling at you or treating you poorly and you simply stand there and take it, changing your attitude and being willing to literally walk away from her will change her perception of you as a man. Literally turn away from her, tell her that you have no desire to listen to her anymore and walk away. You will probably be shocked when she comes after you and apologizes. Don't worry if she doesn't do this immediately. Be sure that her attitude towards you will change though. She will have a renewed respect for you and how she thinks of you will begin to change if you are willing to stand up for yourself.
Keeping your emotions in check is important. When was the last time you heard of a man that is highly respected crying or depressed over his broken heart? A real man takes the pain that life can sometimes dish out and turns that pain into a motivating factor in his life. From here on out, you are positive and optimistic about life. You have goals and dreams of what you want to do in life. You are filled with happiness and you ever look at your breakup as an opportunity to grow as a human being. When in the presence of your ex or anyone, for that matter, you are happy about life. If you are ever having a difficult time, control your emotions and tell yourself that you will process these emotions later when you're alone. If you continue to struggle, excuse yourself from the situation for a few minutes. Find a place where you can regain your composure and remind yourself that it is vitally important that you remain calm and positive in every situation. People are attracted to people who are strong and women, in particular, are attracted to men who are happy about life.
Many women try to take control of a relationship and you can probably look back and see that your girlfriend or wife controlled many things in your life. It could be that she told you what she thought that you should do or even what clothes you should wear. A woman really doesn't want to be in control in a relationship. A woman will test a man to see if he will give up control but at the end of the day, she wants you to be the man. Even simple things like making a decision about where you will go to eat is a test. You might not care but she wants you to make a decision. In the future, don't allow her to make the decisions in your life. If she doesn't like it then don't worry. She will get over it. This includes when the time comes for you to get back together. She will test you and try to tell you where you should meet or when. Deny her control and make alternate suggestions even if you don't have plans. Take control of the situation and your relationship.
Your self-confidence has probably taken a beating since she left but this doesn't mean that it is going to take months or years to rebuild your confidence. For you, as a man, your self-confidence is apparent in how you carry yourself. A man's self-confidence can be seen without words and it is shown in your posture, the kind of words you use and your body language, in general. Your facial expression shows that you are cheerful and without worry. You stand tall without slouching and you fear nothing. If you struggle with your confidence and self-esteem, work on it by telling yourself that you're strong. You can accomplish anything that you set your mind to. This includes getting the woman that you love back in your life. The next time you see your ex girlfriend or wife you want her to feel that there is something different about you. You want to exude confidence and an air that you don't have a trouble in the world. Even if she is evil towards you, it doesn't bother you. Even is she is with another man, it doesn't matter to you because you know that eventually she is going to fall for you and come crawling back to you with tears in her eyes.
No matter how difficult it has been having your girlfriend or wife leave you, it is possible to reunite with them rather quickly. You will be tempted to go back to how you were before. You'll be tempted at times to doubt that your new attitude will make a difference. You will worry that it's all going to backfire on you but if you are strong, change will come. How she feels about you will change. Men are not kind and caring toward women that treat them poorly. It's a sign of weakness. In the future, once you do get back together with her, you can treat her kindly but don't overdo it. You can love her and still be the man that she needs you to be. Pick and choose when you will take her advice but don't allow her to treat you poorly. Don't allow her to lose respect for you again. She needs you to be the man in the relationship. When you're not in control, she will look for someone that will protect her and care for her. It's up to you whether that man is you or some other guy that is either already in her life or waiting to take control of the situation. Let that man be you and get her back before it's too late.
Being rejected by the woman you love can be stressful and demoralizing. If you have fallen apart in front of your girlfriend or wife because you are upset or emotionally wounded by her departure then you are normal. This doesn't mean that these emotional display aren't helping you. These emotions are probably linked to the true reason why she decided to leave you though. She might not even realize it but there is a very good chance that it is a lack of respect on her part that caused her to change how she thinks of you or views you as a man. Surely, she gave you many excuses for why she was leaving but these weren't the true reason. The root cause for why a woman usually leaves a relationship is usually how she feels about that man. It should be your goal to change how she thinks and feels about you. Avoid the temptation to cry, beg, plead or even ask about the possibility of getting back together at all cost. As a matter of fact, avoid all contact with your ex until you have your life back together and your attitude has changed.
In life, attitude is everything. This is especially true with women. It is often said that in order to make a woman fall in love with a man he must have an attitude that shows that he is willing to walk away. For instance, if your girlfriend or wife is accustomed to yelling at you or treating you poorly and you simply stand there and take it, changing your attitude and being willing to literally walk away from her will change her perception of you as a man. Literally turn away from her, tell her that you have no desire to listen to her anymore and walk away. You will probably be shocked when she comes after you and apologizes. Don't worry if she doesn't do this immediately. Be sure that her attitude towards you will change though. She will have a renewed respect for you and how she thinks of you will begin to change if you are willing to stand up for yourself.
Keeping your emotions in check is important. When was the last time you heard of a man that is highly respected crying or depressed over his broken heart? A real man takes the pain that life can sometimes dish out and turns that pain into a motivating factor in his life. From here on out, you are positive and optimistic about life. You have goals and dreams of what you want to do in life. You are filled with happiness and you ever look at your breakup as an opportunity to grow as a human being. When in the presence of your ex or anyone, for that matter, you are happy about life. If you are ever having a difficult time, control your emotions and tell yourself that you will process these emotions later when you're alone. If you continue to struggle, excuse yourself from the situation for a few minutes. Find a place where you can regain your composure and remind yourself that it is vitally important that you remain calm and positive in every situation. People are attracted to people who are strong and women, in particular, are attracted to men who are happy about life.
Many women try to take control of a relationship and you can probably look back and see that your girlfriend or wife controlled many things in your life. It could be that she told you what she thought that you should do or even what clothes you should wear. A woman really doesn't want to be in control in a relationship. A woman will test a man to see if he will give up control but at the end of the day, she wants you to be the man. Even simple things like making a decision about where you will go to eat is a test. You might not care but she wants you to make a decision. In the future, don't allow her to make the decisions in your life. If she doesn't like it then don't worry. She will get over it. This includes when the time comes for you to get back together. She will test you and try to tell you where you should meet or when. Deny her control and make alternate suggestions even if you don't have plans. Take control of the situation and your relationship.
Your self-confidence has probably taken a beating since she left but this doesn't mean that it is going to take months or years to rebuild your confidence. For you, as a man, your self-confidence is apparent in how you carry yourself. A man's self-confidence can be seen without words and it is shown in your posture, the kind of words you use and your body language, in general. Your facial expression shows that you are cheerful and without worry. You stand tall without slouching and you fear nothing. If you struggle with your confidence and self-esteem, work on it by telling yourself that you're strong. You can accomplish anything that you set your mind to. This includes getting the woman that you love back in your life. The next time you see your ex girlfriend or wife you want her to feel that there is something different about you. You want to exude confidence and an air that you don't have a trouble in the world. Even if she is evil towards you, it doesn't bother you. Even is she is with another man, it doesn't matter to you because you know that eventually she is going to fall for you and come crawling back to you with tears in her eyes.
No matter how difficult it has been having your girlfriend or wife leave you, it is possible to reunite with them rather quickly. You will be tempted to go back to how you were before. You'll be tempted at times to doubt that your new attitude will make a difference. You will worry that it's all going to backfire on you but if you are strong, change will come. How she feels about you will change. Men are not kind and caring toward women that treat them poorly. It's a sign of weakness. In the future, once you do get back together with her, you can treat her kindly but don't overdo it. You can love her and still be the man that she needs you to be. Pick and choose when you will take her advice but don't allow her to treat you poorly. Don't allow her to lose respect for you again. She needs you to be the man in the relationship. When you're not in control, she will look for someone that will protect her and care for her. It's up to you whether that man is you or some other guy that is either already in her life or waiting to take control of the situation. Let that man be you and get her back before it's too late.
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