The Initial Approach is probably the most difficult and arguably the most fundamental part of interacting with a new woman. The manner in which you open a woman will either get you in the door to initiate your game or it will get you a fat rejection. So if you have a bad opening, you will never be able to approach women successfully.
The first thing you should do if you want to approach women effectively is to work on your looks, work on your confidence, handle your approach anxiety, and afterwards learn the best ways to successfully open women. The opening is not actually complicated nor is it tough to pull off. There is basically just two major things you need to be concerned about. It's just that you have to get over your approach anxiety and actually APPROACH women.
1) Have something ready to say.
An attractive woman or even a semi-attractive woman was flirted and hit on a lot of times before you came along. Many of those losers had bad to marginal opening lines and probably resorted to "it sure is crowded in here" or "that's a nice phone." kind of boring drivel. You need to distance yourself from the thousands of losers she has turned down and demonstrate high value by being witty, interesting, and/or different (in a good way).
Since you're about to puke just getting over approach anxiety and actually cold approach a woman, it is best to have a couple of canned openers that has been repeatedly tested with women and is proven to work. Most of the cheesy pickup lines smell bad and make you look silly and downright desperate, so stay away from the "did you fall from heaven?" types and pick some imaginative, natural sounding ones.
The book "Mating Intelligence Unleashed" says that most women would prefer an indirect approach over a direct approach so pick a few indirect openers, memorize it, and practice, practice, practice. I find the opinion asking ones to be very natural, fluid, and girls respond well to them.
2) Body language and presentation
Bear in mind, 55% of communication is visual (body language, eye contact), 38 % is vocal (pitch, speed, volume, tone of voice), and 7 % is actual words. This indicates that what you say is merely garnish to how you say it or how you present yourself when you say it.
Smile on the approach! A smile will disarm, de-guard, and de-bitch any woman and it will create a more friendly atmosphere. Also, keep strong eye contact. Strong eye contact, coupled with a lower voice tonality and slower speech patterns, can speed up attraction, comfort, and trust.
Give her negative body language! This means to place the front of your body away from her and just turn your head to her. Only when she qualifies herself (i.e. says something witty/sexy), turn your body to her. This might seem anti-intuitive but it works and is based on sound attraction psychology. By showing negative body language, you are showing you do not need her attention or approval and you demonstrate high value by not coming off as desperate or needy.
At the same time you will need to display confident, alpha male body language: chest out, shoulders back. If you don't know how to display confident hands, just hang it by your side, or animate it by talking with them.
That's it... Now you can:
Include some time constraint techniques such as, "I have only got a minute because I'm meeting my friends, but I have to say..." or "Another thing before I go ..." and get her number.
Shift into A2 phase which is where you hook them by displaying your high value with such things as story telling, tricks, magic demonstrations, psychic readings, negging (veiled teasing), leading the discussion, etc.
The first thing you should do if you want to approach women effectively is to work on your looks, work on your confidence, handle your approach anxiety, and afterwards learn the best ways to successfully open women. The opening is not actually complicated nor is it tough to pull off. There is basically just two major things you need to be concerned about. It's just that you have to get over your approach anxiety and actually APPROACH women.
1) Have something ready to say.
An attractive woman or even a semi-attractive woman was flirted and hit on a lot of times before you came along. Many of those losers had bad to marginal opening lines and probably resorted to "it sure is crowded in here" or "that's a nice phone." kind of boring drivel. You need to distance yourself from the thousands of losers she has turned down and demonstrate high value by being witty, interesting, and/or different (in a good way).
Since you're about to puke just getting over approach anxiety and actually cold approach a woman, it is best to have a couple of canned openers that has been repeatedly tested with women and is proven to work. Most of the cheesy pickup lines smell bad and make you look silly and downright desperate, so stay away from the "did you fall from heaven?" types and pick some imaginative, natural sounding ones.
The book "Mating Intelligence Unleashed" says that most women would prefer an indirect approach over a direct approach so pick a few indirect openers, memorize it, and practice, practice, practice. I find the opinion asking ones to be very natural, fluid, and girls respond well to them.
2) Body language and presentation
Bear in mind, 55% of communication is visual (body language, eye contact), 38 % is vocal (pitch, speed, volume, tone of voice), and 7 % is actual words. This indicates that what you say is merely garnish to how you say it or how you present yourself when you say it.
Smile on the approach! A smile will disarm, de-guard, and de-bitch any woman and it will create a more friendly atmosphere. Also, keep strong eye contact. Strong eye contact, coupled with a lower voice tonality and slower speech patterns, can speed up attraction, comfort, and trust.
Give her negative body language! This means to place the front of your body away from her and just turn your head to her. Only when she qualifies herself (i.e. says something witty/sexy), turn your body to her. This might seem anti-intuitive but it works and is based on sound attraction psychology. By showing negative body language, you are showing you do not need her attention or approval and you demonstrate high value by not coming off as desperate or needy.
At the same time you will need to display confident, alpha male body language: chest out, shoulders back. If you don't know how to display confident hands, just hang it by your side, or animate it by talking with them.
That's it... Now you can:
Include some time constraint techniques such as, "I have only got a minute because I'm meeting my friends, but I have to say..." or "Another thing before I go ..." and get her number.
Shift into A2 phase which is where you hook them by displaying your high value with such things as story telling, tricks, magic demonstrations, psychic readings, negging (veiled teasing), leading the discussion, etc.
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